You always have a choice
You’re driving in your car, you’re in a hurry and of course, the car in front of you is going really slowly. So you have another red light. You’re starting to get really angry and you say a lot of things to the person who, according to you, caused this.
Because if that car in front of you hadn’t driven so slowly, you wouldn’t be waiting for the red light to turn green again. And you wouldn’t have been so angry now. It’s all the fault of that other car.
But is it really? Is it the other person’s fault?
According to the law of attraction we are responsible for everything we experience. Because what we send out is what we receive back, and whatever we give our attention to grows.
If for example you feel angry, you'll attract more situations that might make you angry. And if you're grateful for the happy things in life, even if they are really small, you'll attract more things to be grateful for.
When things happen that you don’t like that much, like the car that was too slow, you could ask yourself what the energy was that you sent out to make you "receive" this experience.
But it’s even more fun to try and turn this around!
But how do you do that?
The first step is to become aware of the energy that you are sending out. Become aware of how you'r feeling. Are you feeling impatient? Angry? Sad? Disappointed?
The second step is to accept this. Fighting against it will only bring you more of this, because what you give your attention to grows… So accept how you feel. It’s just like that. It’s not wrong or good. It just is.
The third step is to think of something that'll make you feel different, so you will start sending out a different energy. And therefore start attracting different situations. It’s not always easy if you don’t feel happy at that moment, but it's really possible!
You could for example start by putting on music that you love. You’ll see that the not so happy feeling will go more to the background or will disappear completely.
Something I often do, when I’m at home, is go into the garden. Especially with nice weather of course. I just go outside, with my feet in the grass. Connecting to the earth. Grounding.
Do what works for YOU!
But of course everything you can think of that works for you is OK. Everyone is different and you know best what works for you. And it doesn't have to be perfect! You can also try different things to find out what you like most.
Now I know, that sometimes you're in a certain mood and you find that you have the right to be in this mood. The right to be sad, or angry, or something else. And of course you have the right! But tell me: Does that make you feel better? Does it make you feel happier? I guess not.
Wouldn’t it be a lot nicer to find something that makes you feel better? Even if it's just a little? Something to maybe bring that smile back on your face?
A special experience
These kind of things happen to me as well. And I'd love to share a very special experience with you.
I was sitting at the kitchen table, being angry and stubborn. In my head I was repeating all sorts of things and that made my anger and stubbornness even worse. I felt like these feelings were stronger than I was. So I couldn’t help it, I thought.
And then I heard a voice in my head: “You always have a choice”. Of course, I thought. But not now, not in this situation. And I continued being angry and stubborn.
And then I heard it again: “You always have a choice”. Hmmm… maybe I should think about this… You always have a choice…
Yes, it’s my choice to stay here at the kitchen table being angry and stubborn. I could also choose to go sit on the sofa with my love and let the thing that made me angry rest. That will make me feel better, and that is exactly what I want!
Since that experience I repeat it to myself often. I say to myself: “Kirsten, you have a choice!”. And then I realize that I’m right. I smile and choose to do something else. Something that will change my mood and shift my energy!
Choose to feel as good as possible
So if you don’t feel happy, no matter in what way, find something that'll make you feel better. Nicer thoughts, daydreaming, listening to music, going for a walk… Tell yourself you always have a choice, and choose something that makes you happy!
You'll see that it gets easier and easier, the more you do it. And you’ll notice things will start to change in your life. Because you take the responsibility for what happens. Because you choose to feel as good as possible.
PS: Please note that every feeling is OK and is allowed to be there! This is not about denying your feelings! But there's a difference between accepting your feelings and staying stuck in them.
If you'd like help relaxing and letting go, try listening to a short guided meditation, like my Letting Go With The Wind Meditation.
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